““The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.””— C. JoyBell C (via amortizing)
Anonymous: my bf and I broke up on Thursday night and I wanted to break up for a while since he's immature and didn't treat me right but I still miss him a lot and I've been having this anxiety that he doesn't miss me at all and he's over me and has moved on and isn't suffering like me :(
firstly stop thinking about him, think about your time to heal. whether he’s over you or not, it shouldn’t be concerning for you.
focus on healing, it’ll take time but you’ll get there i promise. flowers don’t bloom all year.
I know I told this story before but last year I was having complications with a surgery and I just broke down in a public place and I was trying to gather myself, sitting and leaning on a wall when this girl in cowboy boots approached me and sat down and she asked what was wrong and I told her it was medical issues and she said “I understand, I have to have my foot amputated next week” and it shocked me out of crying and I was like “wow that sucks!” And she said “yeah.” And then she just touched my arm so tenderly and told me “I promise you that this problem will have its place, and everything is going to work out.” And the way she said it just made me really believe her. She said. “We’re just gonna have to cowgirl up.” And then she stood up and walked away and I’d call that a genuine encounter with an angel but the truth is there is a lot of goodness right here on earth in humanity and it’s shining and pure.
Okay but “this problem will have its place” is genuinely inspiring
THAT REALLY STRUCK ME because I’ve always hated the tired rhetoric of “this happened for a reason” and this feels like a more genuine, comforting take on that. Not “it happened for a reason,” but “this will find its spot in your life and your future that it fits into in a way that will eventually work out even though it sucks that it happened.” Love that.
